As a coach, one of the most common things I hear from people is “I have a dream but I’m stuck on HOW to make it happen.”
I’ve been there too, and here’s what I’ve learned…
Check out the 5 steps for HOW to make your dream happen:
1. Ignore your Inner Critic.
The more excited you feel about making your dream happen, the louder your inner critic will become. It wants you to stay in your comfort zone, aka stay stuck, and not take risks. It pipes up and says “You’re not good enough, you’re going to fail, you’re a fraud, you don’t know what you’re doing…”. Sound familiar?
That voice is a NORMAL part of going for your dream and the key is to not buy into what it’s saying. The inner critic is a fearful, small-minded voice designed to hold you back and it’s not who you truly are. My inner critic still pipes up, like right now, “This blog post is too long, you’re not a great writer…blah,blah,blah) but I continue to take action in spite of it and that’s made all the difference.
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay
2. Listen to your Intuition and not Naysayers.
Whoever says you can’t do what you love and be successful, has never done it. To put it bluntly, don’t listen to them. When I exited my real estate career to pursue Beyond the Arena full-time, numerous well-intentioned people advised me to keep my real estate license “just in case” and “as a backup”.
But my intuition said something different. It told me to cut off the golden handcuffs and go for it. After a three and a half years of of building Beyond the Arena and selling houses simultaneously, it was time to leave real estate behind. Your intuition will guide you step by step if you listen, trust, and follow it.
“Consider the track record of your naysayers. How many dreams have they successfully brought into this world?” – Sarah Ban Breathnach
3. Find a Mentor.
My dream of Beyond the Arena would not have happened without mentors.
A mentor is someone who has blazed the trail before you and has experience, advice, and wisdom on how to get from where you are, to where you want to be.
Most importantly, a mentor believes in you and inspires you to keep going. No matter what your dream is, there are people who have experience doing what you want to do. Here are my mentors:
Melisa Pearce is the creator of the Equine Gestalt Coaching Method, a savvy entrepreneur, and she lives the horsewoman dream. When I first arrived at her barn for my certification training, my jaw dropped as I looked around at the gorgeous horses, inspirational posters on the walls, and indoor arena with epic views of the Flatiron mountains. I thought, holy sh*&, this woman is living her dream doing what she loves…it IS possible! Melisa has shown me THE LIFESTYLE THAT IS POSSIBLE BY FOLLOWING YOUR DREAMS and I soaked up as much knowledge as I could from her. (Pic is at Melisa’s Touched By a Horse National Conference where she encouraged me to begin public speaking.)
Sally Hope is a former rockstar turned life coach and creator of the Wildheart Revolution. I met Sally at a life coach training and learned that she traveled the country in an RV, rocking her renegade life coaching business while writing inspiring blog posts. Sally is like a kickass, empowered older sister. I immediately signed up for her coaching program and she’s shown me how to BE AUTHENTIC IN MY BUSINESS, and successfully do things my own way.
(Pic is at Sally’s Wildheart Retreat in Montana which inspired me to lead my own retreats.)
“Show me a successful individual and I’ll show you someone who had real positive influences in his or her life. I don’t care what you do for a living—if you do it well I’m sure there was someone cheering you on or showing the way. A mentor.” — Denzel Washington
One of the best ways to get unstuck, is to get out of your head and help others. Google places and people who do what you want to do, and offer to be of service.
I volunteered at numerous therapeutic riding centers to gain experience, knowledge, and to get clear on the type of clients I wanted to serve. Volunteering gave me a purpose by helping others, and it was an effective way to gain experience in my dream career path.
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” — Mahatma Gandhi
5. Take one small step every day.
There’s a lot of talk about the glorified “leap” of cutting ties and going for your dream. I’ll never forget the day I cashed my last real estate commission check and skipped out the sliding glass doors, but it was hundreds of small consistent action steps that led me to that moment. Take one small step everyday toward your dream…the steps add up.
“Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.” – Chinese Proverb
Your dream doesn’t happen overnight, but it will happen over time if you never give up, believe in yourself, get support, take risks, find a mentor, and take small actions each day.
I’d love to hear from you…which one of the five steps resonates with you the most? Post in the comments below!
Dreams do come true,